Emotional residue, trauma, spiritual bypassing and illusion of wellbeing

Our nervous system is designed to complete it's emotional reactions to adverse external situations. If somehow we are unable to complete that response in real time, our nervous system will find every opportunity later to complete it. 

Any reminder to the original event in the past will trigger the residual response. 

We try to suppress it again typically because often it is not making any sense, but if we understand that it is not the present event to which our nervous system is reacting, but to some resembling past event, then we may allow and create space for the emotional reaction to complete (with due diligence of course). 

But if we keep accumulating then the over load on our system can create some serious damage in the long run ... 

Often intellectual or spiritual bypassing is used for that purpose! 

Bypassing, is the use of some intellectual gymnastics to distract one self into an illusion of wellness. 

This often involves creating rational justification of the discomfort being felt in our hearts and bodies as a result of some difficult experience. 

We then focus on this rationalization so much that we tend to forget what's actually happening within ourselves. This can create a false sense of wellbeing. 

Spiritual bypassing involves rationalization of some beliefs to force ourselves into this false perception of wellness. 

Bypassing thus evades the natural and Divine process of restoration and healing, which is activated by embracing and by not evading the difficulty of the experience. 

The pain is also not a sign to run away from our internal experiences, its a signal by our defense mechanism asking the higher self to let the healing system to do it's thing. 

If you are feeling pain it's because your system is healing your wounds. But bypassing makes people feel numb, and they perhaps fall into this illusion of wellness ... 

Being spiritual or having a deep connection with the Divine is not suppose to make you emotionally numb or sterile ... it rather creates an internal safe space to experience all the difficult emotions, a space where difficult emotions turns into a catalyst to strengthen the Divine connection, a space where these emotions transmogrify into hope, calmness, peace while also bringing a sense of gratitude ... 

In fact, it has also been observed that often difficult emotions force us into a spot where we don't have any choice left but to find this space inside of us, where we are completely vulnerable and left with no other option except to seek help from the Divine ... and eventually we experience the healing through the Divine light which thus brings a sense of bliss and serenity ... 

But we can't find this space or connect with the Divine if we keep forcing ourselves into a delusion of wellness during moments of pain while pretending to be religious and spiritual, which also prevent us to experience the sweetness of the healing process ...

Intellectual or spiritual bypassing thus prevents us from connecting to our core and thus disconnects from the Divine as well ...